“Live your truth” is pretty much the battle cry of 2018. Everyone is tired of living half a life, and I totally get it, I am too. We all deserve to live out our best life, regardless of what that looks like to someone else.
Les Brown said, “too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.”
The thing that no one tells you about living your truth is that it is hard. We get stuck behind what we think we should be versus who we actually are. We get stuck behind fear.
Here is what no one tells you about living your truth:
1. It’s scary. When we “change” or finally step into ourselves it’s like stepping forward into the dark. We don’t know what’s there–but when we finally move forward we realize we’re in a sea of stars and we are the moon. Or the sun. Or a black hole. Take your pick.
2. Living your truth makes people uncomfortable, and sometimes, even angry. They will call you selfish, tell you that you don’t know what you’re doing, etc. And sometimes it’s just best not to try and explain. If they continue to belittle you then it’s time to stop explaining and move on.
3. People will talk about you. Good and bad. It’s fine. You can laugh and cry about it, maybe send them a mental f* you, forgive, then cut the energetic cord that’s holding you to them. Buh-bye.
4. Living your truth doesn’t happen overnight; sometimes living our truth takes time…a long time. There are certain steps that need to be taken beforehand. You know what those are. Keep moving forward.
5. Living your truth is different for everyone. Maybe living your truth means you leave the religion you were raised in, but for someone else, it means finding a religion that they connect with. Neither one is wrong unless it’s going against what your soul is calling you to do.
6. Not everyone will understand “why you’re doing this.” And that’s okay. Do what feels good and true to you, not what feels good and comfortable for someone else.
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7. You may lose friends and family by living your truth. For me, this is the hardest thing to grasp. You’ve probably heard so many times, “I love you, but…” instead of simply, “I love you and I want you to be happy.”
8. But guess what? Some people will be really, truly happy that you’re living your truth–those are the people you surround yourself with.
9. It’s never too late to start living your truth. Period.
10. And lastly, living your truth doesn’t give you license to hurt or control people because you call it your “truth”. If your truth is to intentionally harm people, then you’re not living your best life–you’re just a dick.
So often we get stuck behind what society thinks we should be, how our parents think we should act, how this is going to upset your relationships…and while it is so good to care about people and what they feel, how you feel and are affected should be your number one priority.
Live your life for you. Not for someone else. Starting today, “may your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.” -Nelson Mandela
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